Thursday, December 11, 2008

My Mom

my mom, 2008 - her 73rd birthday at King Estate Winery in Eugene, OR
I wonder why some people think that having a baby - the actual act of a baby growing inside them - makes them a mom? I don't have kids nor have I ever been pregnant, so I won't pretend to know. I can only speak for myself and for my own experience.

I was adopted so I didn't "grow inside my mom's tummy" - or as I tell her - "just because I didn't come out of your vagina doesn't make you any less my mom". She loves when I talk to her like that. ;)

I know with 100% certainity that this woman was meant to be my mom. We were meant to be together and adoption was the way it had to happen. She had four boys and wanted a girl - or as she put on the paperwork she wanted "a girl with brown eyes who was cuddly". Sometimes I think she got more than she bargained for. ;)

I've been reading Boho Girl's blog - she just adopted a baby and as far as I can tell, all the feelings are the same. The pure joy, the unconditional love, the welcoming of the baby into the family. The fact that a baby doesn't have to grow inside you to make you a mother.
The fact that my mom is the best mom I could have ever grown beside.

my mom, 2008 - Scandanavian Festival in Junction City, OR


mccabe said...

well you do have brown eyes and are cuddly...
wink wink.

beautiful tribute to your mama~
i imagine you are her shining angel.


Kristin said...

Beautifully said! And b-e-a-utiful pics of your mom!

Brandi said...

what a beautiful tribute to your mom.

and that last picture of her is awesome! what a spirited woman she is!

di said...

what an amazing post.
a beautiful tribute to a beautiful mom from her lovely daughter.
this makes my eyes puddle up in a really good way. and spill out. i can only imagine how this will bless your mom.

and yes she is spirited! and that sunset and vineyard look divine!

my eyes and heart are full now.

thank you.

MJ said...

Guess don't have to be 'blood relatives' to be the best cousin ever either. From the first time I met you, you were the big sister that I always wanted and never had. You have not idea how crazy I drove my parents talking about how I wanted this and that because "my cousin Trish in California" has it. Black and white checked Vans ring a bell? I am so glad to have a cousin like you even though we have only met in person once. You are a ray of sunshine and a true inspiration to me. I tell everyone about my awesome cousin Trish and how great you are and how we have kept in touch over the years even though we have always lived literally worlds apart.

Blood, birth, none of that means anything. God knows who is family and he makes sure He gets us together one way or another. Love ya Cuz...