Sunday, December 14, 2008
Thursday, December 11, 2008
my mom, 2008 - her 73rd birthday at King Estate Winery in Eugene, OR
I was adopted so I didn't "grow inside my mom's tummy" - or as I tell her - "just because I didn't come out of your vagina doesn't make you any less my mom". She loves when I talk to her like that. ;)
Monday, December 8, 2008
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Friday, October 31, 2008
our magical neighbor Charli (on the right)
and her BFF, Riley.
and our fairydog, Molly.
"Come Fairies, take me out of this dull world,
for I would ride with you upon the wind
and dance upon the mountains like a flame!”
~ William Butler Yeats
Monday, October 27, 2008
Monday, October 13, 2008
Friday, October 3, 2008
Sunday, September 28, 2008
My husband was laid off earlier this year and his severance (and benefits) are over this week. My brother has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. The doctors speculate that he could be gone in the next 2 to 8 months.
I'm living in a land mine of questions that are currently unanswerable. Is that job going to pan out? Will we be able to stay here in Eugene? If not, where will we go? How long does my brother really have? Should I go to Tennesse now or wait till he comes back to California with my mom? And of course, the always popular why and what if? So...why be grateful?I was very lucky to just complete a 40 day gratitude program called Gratitude Groove with my dear and beautiful friend, Kristin. We spoke on the phone every day and talked through daily exercises together. I realized that I can be grateful - no matter what.
My brother may not live past 6 months - but I am grateful to know this now so that I can spend as much time as possible with him and make sure he knows how much he is loved. It also helps me remember that we really don't know how much time anyone has left - and we shouldn't waste a single second of it - the time to love yourself and love your friends and family is NOW. And love everyone else too.
Malcolm's job situation is not optimal but we are better off than a lot of people - around the world and here in America. We won't go to bed hungry or cold. We also have each other.
It's not always easy. I want to talk myself out of it - I should be sad, I should be scared, I should be sick with worry.
I took a break from the sadness, worry and fear and we went to the Saturday Market yesterday.
I got some beets that I am going to roast with olive oil and sea salt.
Our friend, Brent showed up and made me laugh.
We saw Get Smart at the dollar theatre and laughed some more.
I realized that the sadness, worry and fear will always be there. I am grateful for what they can teach me. I am grateful for knowing that I can choose to set them aside.
"Let us rise up and be thankful, for if we didn't learn a lot today, at least we learned a little, and if we didn't learn a little, at least we didn't get sick, and if we got sick, at least we didn't die; so, let us all be thankful." ~ Buddha
Thursday, September 25, 2008
We live in a new development and there are lots of these rocks around. I've been painting them and leaving them in our neighbors' gardens. I completely stole this idea from the DancingMermaid.
It feels really good to do this and I also get a little scared. I feel sneaky as I plant one of these among their flowers or on their porch.*
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Tuesday, August 12, 2008
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Tuesday, July 22, 2008
Tuesday, July 8, 2008
It got me to thinking about the friends I've made because of the internets.
I met J. face-to-face in 2003, when she flew from Florida for a slumber party I was having for 30 virtual strangers. We now sport the same tattoo on the inside of our left ankles (along with our Canadian friend, V.). K. came to a pumpkin carving party I hosted. She brought a pumpkin but refused to cut it. We are forever joined by our associations with a Mr. Dave Grohl.
I have countless stories about other friends from the SARK board - slumber parties, road trippin' to San Francisco to meet SARK herself, beach parties, skinny dipping, baby showers, art dates, and more - so much more. I wouldn't know about Soft Coated Wheaten Terriers (and have my baby, Molly) if it wasn't for Rae from the SARK Board and her sharing about her wheatie, Samwise Gamgee.
And then there's Meet In Eugene. I found this group while doing research about Eugene. This is one boffo group of people and so much FUN!
Lastly, and never leastly, is my husband. We met in an AOL chat room - Southern California room - on August 11, 1996. This was before dating sites. We were just in a chat room and started "talking". An hour later, we were on the phone. Three hours later, I knew I was going to be *very* tired at work the next day. We met face-to-face 5 days later and were married on November 13, 1998.
So, in short, thank you, Al Gore for inventing the internet. :)
Sunday, July 6, 2008
Sunday, June 22, 2008
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Monday, June 2, 2008
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Charli and her friend Riley who was over for the weekend moved the fairy area to the empty lot right next door to Charli's house. They left notes for the fairies (I know this because they came over and asked me for paper to write the notes) but the fairies couldn't get out there till they knew Charli was back to school yesterday.
Note from Charli...
I moved your fairy home! I hope you guys won't get mad at me for moving it but I put it somewere better, you guys get shade and I brought your fairy stuff over.
this is charli, by the wayNote from Riley...
My name is Riley. The fairies at my house are maybe greedy. I just love fairies so, so much. Can you please give me a bag of things? And what do you look like? Please wright me back.
The fairies responded to Charli with abundant thanks and this was their response to Riley...
Fairies are never greedy - but we do get busy. It will be easier to take care of both you and Charli in one place - here. We love you too. We look like blooming flowers and shining stars and dreams come true.
The fairies left behind tiny garden pinwheels, letters that spelled out Riley, a tiny latern that lights up and loads of glitter.
The fairies just snuck out to take this picture and found another note...
When me and Riley are outside do you guys watch over us? Riley and I think fairies are just so pretty and cool. Will we get to see you guys sometime? We want to be best friends with you, but we all ready are. How old are you? What color hair do you have? What flowers are your favorite?
Love, Riley & Charli
p.s. agien we want to see you! in person!
The fairies' response...
Dear Riley & Charli,
It is best for fairies to stay hidden to human eyes ~ and we also enjoy being sneaky. :) We are "pretty and cool" but also very smart. We are as old as the stars in the sky and as young as each new day. We have all kinds of hair colors...we love all flowers and especially the ones we can wear as hats. We move around a lot but we will always come back to this wonderful spot you have made for us.
Sunday, May 25, 2008
Saturday, May 24, 2008
Thursday, May 15, 2008
What I didn't know is how lucky we would get in the friend department.
We have met some of the best people in all of Oregon (through MeetIn.org).
We dress up and eat candy and ice cream cake together
(you should always have a pastry chef in your group).
We karaoke, drink, play badminton, drink, play games, drink,
watch mediocre Hawaii themed movies, book & movie club,
get all pretty ....
and rock out on guitar hero and rock band....
We eat korean food and get serenaded by Joy, the owner of Brail's (voted best hangover breakfast in Eugene).
Evidently, we light up Joy's life. :)
Basically, we celebrate good times (c'mon!).
In all seriousness, this is one great group of boffo Oregon folks
and we are, in a word, grateful.
We also get sad when we have to be apart...
It's okay, Rebecca. We have a lot planned for the summer! :)
Wednesday, May 14, 2008
Monday, May 12, 2008
We all know the day will come when we have to say goodbye. But knowing doesn't make it easier or make it hurt any less.
Thank you, Sasha Washa Wiggle Butts for taking such good care of our friend, Jamie.
We'll see you at the Bridge, sweet girl.
Rest in peace, Sasha.
photos by Leigh White
Saturday, May 10, 2008
Thank you for the rocks and the fairy items I really like them. One of the farmer guys crushed one of your fairy houses even the activities center and your guyses rock broke. I am really sorry can you guys give me a new rock please!
The fairies wrote back....
You are so very welcome. Thank you for building us such a wonderful place. We are used to the farmers and their machines. It is okay. We hope to make you a new rock someday (they are very heavy).
The fairies left the note along with some beads that spelled out Charli, 5 glittery magic wands and plenty of fairy dust glitter. Due to the sneakiness of this 10 o'clock mission -- by the light of the moon and in full view of Charli's dark bedroom window, the fairies regret that there are no further pictures to share. ;)
Friday, April 18, 2008
Yesterday, she showed me the fairy land she built in the empty lots across the street from us. She also told me about her future expansion plans for the fairies' home and hoped that they would like it one day.
So....I got to work last night building a fairy "kit".
(she made the leaf beds)
and on the front porch....
I watched from the office window as she discovered the surprises in the fairy land. She was jumping up and down and screaming for her dad who was on his way over to see (he helped her build the land a couple of days ago).
Malcolm's over there helping her dad dig out the backyard and when I went over...she came running to me, showing me everything. She told me that she knew the fairies had really come because they had left behind fairy dust.
Her dad told her, "see...you should always believe in your dreams."
p.s. "I think that people who can't believe in fairies aren't worth knowing." ~Tori Amos
p.p.s. very special thanks to dancing mermaid...maker of magic and an inspiration and muse to many.